Start Dating advice too nice

Dating advice too nice

I've been on two dates with a guy, who I've been speaking to for about a month.

You see, I never saw being nice as a decision that needed to be made – I understood it as a state that naturally existed. Understanding why women go for those bad boys isn't difficult to understand.

I didn't feel that I should go out of my way to be nice because I liked being nice. There are some women who want the nice guy because they understand that nice means good and not nice means bad. They aren't very open, keeping mostly to themselves – that's mysterious.

However, I had a few readers who still had some questions.

Some of the questions came from a group of people I call . They do everything they believe they are "supposed" to do for their lovers.

I am also quite confident and he's really on the shy side.

A few months back, I wrote about 10 Guys That Make Dating Mistakes which was a rather tongue-in-cheek look at the guys who are a human barrier to their own dating success.

After all, we're all "told" that is how it is supposed to work. I did the "good" boyfriend and husband all fell apart.

Bring someone flowers or cook them dinner and they love you forever... I learned firsthand that such nice behavior didn't work. The first step to seeing this clearly is to temporarily put aside any frustration and bitterness.

He would not only do the least possible to keep me around, but also started ignoring anything that was important to me.

So while I’ve heard you say that “men like the woman who treat them nicely and makes things easier“, my experience has been completely the opposite.

They cannot understand how they can, at least theoretically, do everything right—yet have the situation turn out so wrong. I was that clueless guy, doing everything I was told to do by society and romantic comedies, and it was not working.